Posts by Country Girl

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Jefferson Hotel, Jefferson, Texas

by Country Girl in

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we, as a paranormal investigation group, are going to the jefferson hotel, in jefferson, texas, to do an investigation.

we will be staying a second night in marshall, texas, at a b&b where we have had really great responses to our investigations.. we have room for one more person in our group.

the cost is around $60 for the whole weekend.

Country Girl

We, as a paranormal investigation group, are going to the Jefferson Hotel, in Jefferson, Texas, to do an investigation. We will be staying a second night in Marshall, Texas, at a B&B where we have had really great responses to our investigations.

We have room for one more person in our group. The cost is around $60 for the whole weekend. That is just the hotel cost. We will be going on a Ghost Walk in Jefferson, which is $8, and then we always eat at the Jefferson Hotel restaurant which is around $20, and is the best Italian food this side of New York! We've been coming here for years, and just love it.

Anyone that wants to join us for our 4th, please write me.

CG

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I HAVE MADE A DECISION TO LEAVE

by Maddie in

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i haven't been on jwd for the last few days as my good friend had her mum die suddenly and i have been spending time just being there for my friend.. i was shocked and saddened to hear that trevor and linda was a sham.

it's sometimes hard not to become cynical with life and not trust anyone when this sort of thing happens.. i have made a big decision and i hope that i don't live to regret it.

i have posted that i have been trying to "fade" as my son and his family are jw's and i don't want to lose them because of being shunned.

Country Girl

Imagine your life in an overhead projector. Remember those things?

You, yourself, your soul, is the first projected item on the screen. It's a basic human being, outline correct: perfect. The next plastic laydown on the projecter is your family's perception of you. It's not quite matching with the first: some lines are all wibbly wobbly, some lines are okay and match with the original, and some lines are way out of proportion.

On top of that we lay the religion's requirements, and they are also out of proportion to the original transparent that we oringally laid down. We then lay the transparency of your perception of yourself at 3, 5, 9, 11, 15, 22 and we see that the original lines are OBLITERATED and in no way resemble what is the REAL, TRUTHFUL, ORIGINAL you.

For us to be IN SYNC with our original transparency, it means that we have to shed all of the layers laid upon us by the Society, society, and our families. We have to come into resonance with our original form. To do this, we have to shed things that feel false to us, don't work with our personalities, or our reality. To do this requires courage, strength, and endurance. I applaud you for being willing to travel on this road. It's hard, but it gets easier with time! It's time that we realize that living a lie won't work and it's time to get on with our EXISTENCE as happy, well-adjusted human beings, whatever that entails.

I imagine that you will have some ups and downs in the next several months, but it seems like you have the strength and werewithall to deal with them. You also have the support.

My best wishes to you!

CG

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Chilvary, Women's Rights and Striking a Woman

by coolhandluke in

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before i start this, i under no circumstance condone striking another human especially a woman except for in self defense.. with that stated i was bred to believe and still do that it is my responsibility to protect the women in my life.

i try to teach a measure of self defense to my sisters daughters and almost every girlfriend and female friend that i've ever had.

the following thoughts were produced from a discussion with my ex girlfriend.

Country Girl

reneeisorym said:

I am weaker emotionally as well. I cry so easy!

This is not a weakness, it is a strength! By crying, we release our stress, don't shove it down inside ourselves and can let it out: thereby not storing it up in our muscles, our heart, etc., and causing health problems. Crying is a good release for stress, and most men are taught to be ashamed of it when it really is very healthy!

Be happy that you can cry! It is very healthy and very refreshing. I always feel better after a good cry; and for some reason it just puts me in a better frame of mind; it helps me gain perspective.

CG

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Chilvary, Women's Rights and Striking a Woman

by coolhandluke in

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before i start this, i under no circumstance condone striking another human especially a woman except for in self defense.. with that stated i was bred to believe and still do that it is my responsibility to protect the women in my life.

i try to teach a measure of self defense to my sisters daughters and almost every girlfriend and female friend that i've ever had.

the following thoughts were produced from a discussion with my ex girlfriend.

Country Girl

I think it's absolutely charming when a man opens a door for me; lights my cigarette; opens my door before I get out of the car; etc. It makes me feel "frilly" in that girly kind of way: safe and protected. It's very close, safe, and secure. A very comforting feeling.

However, I'm a "country girl" too, and I've had to put up fences with my husband; pull up a well pump by a hand crank 130 feet from under the ground; hook up horse trailers; chop up fallen trees with a chainsaw; and break a horse by myself. When I was being raised I drove a combine for my grandfather; helped my Grandfather in the garden; and cleaned out a cess pit. I am definitely not what you would consider delicate. My husband respects me for that; I can still be a lady, but will do what I have to do to make this house/family run.

All in all, I use this rule: depends on the size of the person and their strength. If you're dealing with a very little person, who is half the size of you, just walk away, unless they have a gun, knife or sledge hammer. If you're dealing with a person that is the size of you, and you know to be very strong, you have a right to defend yourself, even *if* they are a woman. Some women are really strong! But if they're being difficult and abusing you, you have to defend yourself in one way or another! Screw chivalry during these times!

Like force = like force for defense.

CG

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Children at the meetings, how did you cope

by Mrs Smith in

my son was about 5 years old when we stopped going to the meetings.

the other day i asked him what he remembers about them (his now 14 years old).

he remembered the puzzles i bought him to play with during the meetings.. he remembered that i packed a sandwich and some juice for him to eat in case he got hungry.. when he got board i use to take him outside for a walk around the kh garden.

Country Girl

My mother coped cuz she had me watch all my brothers. That was rough on a 9 year old, too! One was crawling under the seats, the other was asleep on my lap, and one was biting a hole in the naughahyde chairs that the congregation just paid $3000 to have recovered! Okay, well I don't know if they cost $3,000, but I figure that was a good estimate for around 100 chairs. Mostly, I took the boys back to the second school and herded them around there.

CG

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Update on my life =(

by roflcopter in

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and the past 4 months we have been having problems.

i posted on the board in the past about the first incident.. but we decided to work on it since she seemed genuinely remorseful... it is hard to beleive now that she abandoned all her morals, her religion, family and friends to persue this pipe dream..... it all started out like this.

but i guess the little things like that meant nothing.

Country Girl

Think.

Seriously.

If she did come back, would you even be able to bear it? Would you want to go through all this drama for the rest of your life? What is love without trust? How could you ever trust her again? Sounds like she is addicted to sex/drama, and you are addicted to *her*.

Look inside, and figure out why you would even let someone treat you like this. You sound like a very loving, attentive, kind, compassionate and perserverant individual. Spend those wonderful qualities on someone that deserves them, and returns them to you!

It'll hurt for awhile. Believe me, it will. I suggest you contact a counselor to help you through the grief process, and read up on the Internet about the grief process, and accompanyng stages. This will better help you put your emotions in context and process them in a healthy way!

Remember: it will get better and in another year or so, it will all seem like a bad dream! Use that wonderful quality of endurance, and look for tomorrow's rainbows! Healing takes time, and you WILL heal!

Wishing you the best!

CG

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What is the worst thing you ever seen done on a Message board?

by free2beme in

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besides the obvious cat fights, flame wars and other mundane nonsense that comes up from time to time.

all of which i think can come and go and be put out rather easy with good moderators and this sight seems to do a good job.

what i am talking about, is something so nasty that when you look back at it years later.

Country Girl

Scientologist pretending to be anti-Scientology individuals, getting information about personal posters and stalking them and filing frivolous lawsuits against them!

CG

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Lived through Danny H incident / Trevorgate? Do you feel a bit changed?

by nvrgnbk in

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surely these two events/situations/happenings mean little, nothing even, to those in the real world.. but since we're witnesses( some participatory) to them, they've affected us.. alot "went down" in a relatively short period of time.. do you feel the effects have been mostly positive, an opportunity to grow perhaps?.

or do you feel adversely affected?.

what about any lasting effects( positive or negative) you think they may have on the way ex-jws interact as a community?.

Country Girl

Just a bit.

It frightened me so badly, I've changed into a middle-aged balding gay man with a "blankie" to keep me company.

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JWs aren't the only ones who have to deal with crazy religious beliefs

by B_Deserter in

http://www.sltrib.com/ci_7028546.

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Country Girl

Maybe the Salt Lake City Tribune is attempting to divert its readers from its state's own little "strange religious" problem.

If you look at some web sites on Orthodox Judaism, in reference to women's "rules and regulations" <there's a word for them, but I can't remember what they're called>, it's pretty scary!

CG

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When Elders go too Far...

by BigBloomerz in

this is just something that really peed me off regarding the elders, is how low they are sinking to get gossip and stuff now, i was in contact with a well trusted friend of mine who used to attend meetings up until 2 years ago, his wife is still in the jw org, he was having a joke around on some text messages with me regarding my man saying "try before you buy" and so on, which i found amusing....lets just say his wife didnt...she snooped on his phone, wrote out the texts he had sent me and gave the transcript to the elders, and now he has to go before a judicial commitee.

how wrong is that, for a start its an invasion of privacy!

i was fuming yesterday when i found out.

Country Girl

He could use his best effeminate voice, flirt a little, with the elders when they call him for his JC meeting -- bet they'd reschedule it for sometime.. oh.. never!

CG